{"id":8238,"date":"2021-03-24T15:50:07","date_gmt":"2021-03-24T15:50:07","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/?p=8238"},"modified":"2026-04-14T16:50:19","modified_gmt":"2026-04-14T16:50:19","slug":"stop-asking-why-i-am-in-a-long-distance-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/stop-asking-why-i-am-in-a-long-distance-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"Stop Asking Why I am in a Long Distance Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #000;\">It is common for those in a long distance relationship to be asked WHY they choose to participate in a relationship with such challenges.\u00a0 The easiest answer is sometimes as simple as you just have to follow your heart to the path that you believe is correct.\u00a0 Robert Frost wrote a famous poem called <em>The Road Not Taken <\/em><\/span><\/span><i><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #000;\">where \u201ctwo roads diverged\u201d.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">When it comes to relationships, it is not always that easy and life doesn\u2019t always present two diverging roads to choose from. Sometimes, only one path is presented to us and we must embark on the journey the best way we know how. Friends and family might not understand your reasoning for wanting this kind of connection. You may want to scream from the rooftops, \u201cstop asking why I am in a long distance relationship already!\u201d It can be frustrating, but there are a few advantages of being in a long distance relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_82_2 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\" style=\"cursor:inherit\">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/stop-asking-why-i-am-in-a-long-distance-relationship\/#Absence_makes_the_heart_grow_fonder_%E2%80%93_Increased_Intimacy\" >Absence makes the heart grow fonder &#8211; Increased Intimacy<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/stop-asking-why-i-am-in-a-long-distance-relationship\/#Love_over_Lust\" >Love over Lust<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/stop-asking-why-i-am-in-a-long-distance-relationship\/#Improved_Communication\" >Improved Communication<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/stop-asking-why-i-am-in-a-long-distance-relationship\/#Appreciate_Time_Spent_Together\" >Appreciate Time Spent Together<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/stop-asking-why-i-am-in-a-long-distance-relationship\/#Personal_Independence_%E2%80%93_Interdependent\" >Personal Independence &#8211; Interdependent<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/stop-asking-why-i-am-in-a-long-distance-relationship\/#Solidified_Commitment_Tests_the_Love_Builds_Trust\" >Solidified Commitment \/ Tests the Love \/ Builds Trust<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/stop-asking-why-i-am-in-a-long-distance-relationship\/#Appreciate_the_Little_Things\" >Appreciate the Little Things<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/stop-asking-why-i-am-in-a-long-distance-relationship\/#Conclusion\" >Conclusion:<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-9\" href=\"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/stop-asking-why-i-am-in-a-long-distance-relationship\/#Relevant_Articles\" >Relevant Articles<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Absence_makes_the_heart_grow_fonder_%E2%80%93_Increased_Intimacy\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">Absence makes the heart grow fonder &#8211; Increased Intimacy<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">To begin with, distance doesn\u2019t always have to be viewed as negative. Studies have shown that those taking part in a long distance relationship have a higher chance of sharing their thoughts and feelings with each other and are able to communicate intimacy better.\u00a0 For instance, it is likely you will find your conversations leading to deeper, more meaningful discussions as opposed to small talk.\u00a0 Topics like your future, goals, expectations and more will spin into perceptive conversation as you continue to build the bond between you.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #000;\">Getting to spend time separated can also <\/span><\/span><b>allow you to refocus and prioritize what you really appreciate about your partner<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0<span style=\"color: #000;\"> If you spend too much time with them it is likely you will start to find minor things bothersome or irritating.\u00a0 When participating in a relationship at a distance, you have the ability to overlook the small stuff that might normally be an issue.\u00a0 You tend to focus on the real aspects of your relationship and about your partner.\u00a0 This aligned focus directly impacts your relationship and can lead to increased intimacy between the two of you.\u00a0 Over time, you will find yourself longing for your partner more and concentrating on spending quality time over quantity.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Love_over_Lust\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">Love over Lust<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">When we see our partner daily or on a regular basis, it is easy to blur the lines between love and lust.\u00a0 Is your attraction more physical than emotional?\u00a0 Do you have a connection with the person you are dating or with the activities you engage in?\u00a0 Is there a deep emotional connection or just a lust driven attraction that will dwindle over time?\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">Sometimes we become infatuated over the wrong aspects about a person.\u00a0 Physical traits or other superficial aspects can guide your emotions in the wrong direction when you should really be focused on our partner\u2019s character.\u00a0 The separation allows you to uncover the true aspects of your partner\u2019s personality, interests, humor, morals, life goals and living habits.\u00a0 Knowledge of these areas will be tremendously helpful as you look to take your relationship to the next level and you will have established whether or not you two have a strong foundation at the beginning of your relationship.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Improved_Communication\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">Improved Communication<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">Communication is the key to all relationships &#8211; near, far or wherever you are.\u00a0 If you and your partner cannot effectively communicate, it does not matter if you live in the same home or in different hemispheres &#8211; your relationship will suffer.\u00a0 Engaging in a relationship where there is distance separating the two of you lends well to communication, as this becomes the primary basis of your relationship.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">To illustrate, you will likely have scheduled calls throughout the day and week.\u00a0 You will be more focused on key aspects of your partner\u2019s day and routine that might not normally be discussed during day-to-day interactions.\u00a0 You and your partner will find yourselves respecting one another\u2019s time and efforts as you will both need to develop interdependence as you rely more on yourself than shared roles in the relationship.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Appreciate_Time_Spent_Together\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">Appreciate Time Spent Together<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #000;\">Previously, we discussed how absence makes the heart grow fonder and leads to increased intimacy in the relationship.\u00a0 How about the quality of the time spent together?\u00a0 We all miss our significant other when they are away.\u00a0 But if we do not get to see them for an extended period of time, we are more apt to REALLY miss them.\u00a0 While sometimes painful, this is one benefit of a long distance relationship that helps <\/span><\/span><b>partners appreciate the time they spend together more<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">In fact, couples in long distance relationships find themselves planning their activities and events more efficiently.\u00a0 Instead of spending a lazy day on the couch binge watching Netflix, they participate in more dates and work to increase the quality of the time spent together.\u00a0 Partners who work to make memories and nurture their relationship have a better chance of long lasting success.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Personal_Independence_%E2%80%93_Interdependent\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">Personal Independence &#8211; Interdependent<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #000;\">Not having your partner directly by our side can lead to us <\/span><\/span><b>developing better personal independence<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #000;\">, as we are not able to lean on our partner to help us with things we would normally ask of them.\u00a0 It is easy to get into a routine of letting your partner do this or that or taking care of this task instead of doing it yourself.\u00a0 For instance, in some relationships, one partner takes on all of the housework while the other takes the yard work.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #000;\">However, when participating in a long distance relationship, often each member of the relationship has to take care of items their partner might have overseen or shared.\u00a0 Couples also find themselves <\/span><\/span><b>more appreciative of the things their partner does for them<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #000;\">.\u00a0 When the long distance part of your relationship ends, you will both be much stronger and ready to help one another in the relationship moving forward.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Solidified_Commitment_Tests_the_Love_Builds_Trust\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">Solidified Commitment \/ Tests the Love \/ Builds Trust<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">Decidedly, long distance relationships are no walk in the park. Being apart can truly make or break a relationship.\u00a0 Separation, time and loneliness can take a toll on your emotions.\u00a0 The separation alone can make your mind go a little crazy.\u00a0 You think about them, wonder what they are doing, if they are thinking about you, who they are talking to, who they are with and if they are happy or when you might see them next.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">However, through these challenges you will find that your patience will grow and so will your trust in your partner.\u00a0 Engaging in a long distance relationship will require a considerable amount of trust and faith in the relationship.\u00a0 Over time this trust will grow as you and your partner will continue to work together to maintain levels of communication.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Appreciate_the_Little_Things\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">Appreciate the Little Things<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">Anyone who has been in a long term relationship knows there are times where we take things and experiences for granted.\u00a0 We get used to certain activities, routines, small talk and more.\u00a0 When you have large gaps of time between getting to see that special someone, it really opens your eyes as to what is important.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #000;\">Perhaps dinner at your favorite spot is more magical, the breeze on the walk home as you hold hands feels nicer and the small gestures you do for your partner are that much more rewarding.\u00a0 Whether it be a simple love note, a bouquet of flowers or dinner made at home, the <\/span><\/span><b>time apart really makes you appreciate the smaller aspects in life<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #000;\">.\u00a0 The little moments are where we make our big connections.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Conclusion\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400; color: #000000;\">Conclusion:<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #000;\">In short, all relationships will have their own unique challenges.\u00a0 Even short distance relationships experience unique trials and tribulations.\u00a0 Many couples find themselves in very successful long distance relationships, but it requires work and understanding from both parties involved.\u00a0 If it is a one-sided effort, <\/span><\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/russiandatingreview.com\/3-reasons-why-your-relationships-fail\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">it will surely fail<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #000;\">However, if you are willing to commit to the relationship, find ways to increase the quality of your connection and commit to one another, it is very likely you will be a part of something amazing. The effort put forth has a great opportunity to blossom and grow into a long lasting relationship due to the levels of trust, interdependence, communication and appreciation you have developed for one another.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #000;\">It is important to focus on the journey and experience of the relationship.\u00a0 Try to find joy in all of the positives and negatives that you may encounter.\u00a0 Sometimes taking the road less traveled will be what makes all of the difference.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Relevant_Articles\"><\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"color: #000;\">Relevant Articles<\/span><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/best-gifts-to-send-in-a-long-distance-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3 of the Best Gifts to Send in a Long Distance Relationship<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/is-living-together-the-next-step-in-your-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is Living Together the Next Step in Your Relationship?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/steps-to-building-a-good-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Steps to Building a Great Relationship<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It is common for those in a long distance relationship to be asked WHY they choose to participate in a relationship with such challenges.\u00a0 The easiest answer is sometimes as&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":8239,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"saved_in_kubio":false,"iawp_total_views":3,"footnotes":""},"categories":[108,5],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8238","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog","category-dating-advice"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8238","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=8238"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8238\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":10877,"href":"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/8238\/revisions\/10877"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/8239"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=8238"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=8238"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dream-singles.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=8238"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}